My Soulmate

Soulmate: Noun. A person with whom one has a strong affinity.

According to wikipedia.com, "A soulmate is somebody with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility. A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul – which is thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one's soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join. However, not everyone who uses these terms intends them to carry such mystical connotations."

When most people think of a soulmate, they think of the one person in the world that they're destined to meet and marry and live happily ever after with. That's not what I think of. Sure I believe you can fall in love with someone and have a wonderful life together, but I don't believe that there's someone out there that you're just "fated" to be with.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not one of those people who doesn't even believe in soulmates at all. I do believe in them. I know I have one; one who can be described as my "other half." I was born with her. Am I unusual in my believe that God made twins, triplets, quadruplets, etc. to be each other's soulmates? Their completers?

I get asked "What's it like to be a twin?" a lot, and usually I don't know what to say. I usually reply "I don't know...what's it like NOT to be a twin?" or "It's hard to say, since I've been one all my life." But when I really stopped to think about it, I realized that being a twin is such an amazing gift. So here I'll try to convey what it's like.

Being a twin means I've never been alone for a single second in my entire life. And I mean that in a good way! My sister has always been someone I can count on. She'll always love me, and she'll always be here for me, and I for her. Not everyone has that assurance in life--to always have someone who cares about them.

I adore my sister. She's so many things that I am not, but that I strive to be. She's strong, hard working, brave, beautiful, soft-spoken, and so many other things. People have said that if my personality traits were merged with hers, we'd make one perfect person. It was that thinking that led me to believe that we're soulmates.

I normally don't care what people think about me, but Bekah is the one person I must please. If she disapproves of something that I do (which is rare), I feel like a little something inside of me dies. But whenever she compliments me or says anything positive to me, the joy I feel is indescribable. She's always very supportive of me, and I try to be the same way to her.

People also ask if Bekah and I have a special bond, and I would have to say yes. No, I can't read her mind telepathically, but our relationship is truly special. People can tell just by looking at us how close we are, and many find it intimidating. We're almost always holding hands, and it's not unusual for me to have an arm around her or vice versa. It's nothing weird, it's just the most natural thing in the world.

I never want to be parted from my sister. I don't even mind the thought of being single for my whole life, just as long as I can always be with her. I honestly don't know how I'd survive without her. She is my best friend, my soulmate, my sister, my entire world. And I thank God for her every day.